Those of you in the know, are well are that the past four months have been some of the toughest for me, and I have been working my way through the stages of grief. I knew my birthday was approaching, and to me, birthdays have always been special. When I was little, my grandma would organize the most amazing birthday parties for me, with balloons, a Happy Birthday ribbon, a special new birthday dress, a clown, and of course, a cake. Even though she is gone, these traditions are still very much a part of me, and I think you guys have started to notice that. Somehow to me, each year is a reminder that you are still here, alive, and fighting the good fight. This year was different though. With my world crumbling around me, that last thing I wanted to do was celebrate my birthday. I figured my birthday would land on a Monday anyway, so I would just go to work and see another year come and go.

Then people started asking me how I was going to top last year’s epic smash birthday dinner, and I honestly didn’t know how. Last year was pretty special, Wurstkuche, Magnolia Bakery, and Chinatown Summer Nights. A lovely night out in my beloved DTLA with my closest friends. So, with the encouragement of those closest to me, and their help, plans for my 28th birthday just seemed to come together. If you know me, I have a hard time asking for things, so, when people started to come forward offering to help and bring things without me asking, I was really humbled and weepy. If you were there that night, I think you all knew you were part of some magical surreal experience, amiright? I certainly felt it. In the weeks leading up to that night, I wasn’t really as excited as I should have been. I bought a few decorations, decided on Mexican soda, but didn’t even make the effort to look for a new birthday dress. I really loved the one I wore last year, so figured, hey, why not. Who cares. I’m wearing it again. And despite the fact that my mind, soul, and heart is full of grief and dealing with loss, Last Sunday night was EASILY one of the top 3 best nights of my life.

When my friend offered up his home in North Hollywood to host my party, I was very touched, but then the anxiety set in. I haven’t thrown a party in years. I thought about clean up, and logistics, and everything I would need to get. At some point having this at a restaurant just seemed like a better idea. Yet, my best friend S promised to help and in the days leading up to the party, she helped me get everything in order. The first order of business, was to pick a theme, and Hello Kitty seemed appropriate.

When Ricky offered to cook up his famous fish and shrimp tacos for my birthday, I cried. It seemed so perfect, and total comfort food. I really couldn’t think of anything else that I wanted to eat that night. Most of my friends have heard me talk about Rickys Fish Tacos, but most had yet to try them. A lot of minds were blown that night.

Bake You Happy went above and beyond, with Hello Kitty cake pops, cupcakes, and my special pink strawberry beautiful cake. Not only was everything amazing as usual, but the detail that was put into each cake pop, cupcake, and my cake…amazing. Kim and Kim, thank you so much for coming, and thank you so much for the dessert. Seriously.

I had never eaten cake pops before, but they were so good! These were such a great hit with everyone! And so adorable too!

Good coffee has always been a part of my birthday celebration because well…I love baller coffee! Last year, we had Blue Bottle from Drip Bar at Chinatown Summer Nights which was pretty special. This year, since it was going to be at a friend’s house, I was wondering how to make good coffee happen. Then Mike showed me something called the Handsome Traveler, which I thought was entirely too good to be true. Handsome Coffee would go to your event, and serve coffee for your friends and family.

Handsome Coffee. Who, I had been wanting to try, and had been completely excited about ever since rumblings of the new roaster were first announced months ago. I had been reading the Tumblr, and was so jealous I hadn’t signed up on time for the Handsome Forty program, even though I don’t make coffee at home…hmmm. I will say I enjoyed reading what everyone had to say about their coffee beans, including Jonathan Gold. I knew that one day, I would finally get to try them out.

I had seen Mike Phillips compete at SCAA last year, and had always wanted to have something served by him. I had seen him on bar at Intellivenice once, but he wasn’t my barista. I thought that whenever Handsome Coffee Roasters opened up shop, I would finally get that chance. I would have never imagined they would be part of my birthday bash…yet that’s totally what happened…here is Mike Phillips.

Yes, kids. The 2010 World Barista Champion, Michael Phillips (top), along with Tyler Wells, who most of us recognized from IntelliPas, were the ones serving you the best coffee of your lives. I almost had someone pinch me, because it was just so surreal, and something I would have never imagined. Major props to Mike D. for handling the details, and he knew I was anxious about it really happening. So when I saw them arrive and start to set up…it was one of those “OMGZ IS THIS REALLY HAPPENING” type of moments. Fangirl.

Tyler Wells.
I had the best cappuccinos of my life that night. I think we all did.

A lot of non-coffee drinkers became believers that night, and I’m pretty sure the standards have been raised for many others. Personally? The coffee was so smooth, and a new instant favorite. I’m sure I’m not alone in thinking that.

Before a big event, I always tend to get anxious about forgetting something or all the ways something could go wrong. On this night, I had no worries, I had peace of mind. I went back to reality by the next morning, but on that night…I escaped my troubles for a bit.

People were mingling, eating, talking, laughing, making new friends. I was free to fully, for once, ENJOY myself, and enjoy my party to the fullest.

Every single person that was there that night had a blast, and I didn’t even have to play hostess.

Everything magically fell into place, and on that day, I forgot about all my grief, and all the loss I have experienced in the past four months. On this night, I realized that I am surrounded by people that genuinely love and care about me. And that gives me strength to keep fighting the good fight.

Even Ryan Reynolds (N8) was there!

Thank you to Jason, N8, and Scott Jackson for the ice, and for providing such a smooth birthday playlist. Thank you to S for your help, I couldn’t have pulled this off without you. Thank you to Kim and Kim for the sweetest desserts, Ricky for the best fish and shrimp tacos ever!

The Handsome crew for making this the birthday party of my dreams, thank you to my SCV crew for making it out to NoHo and celebrating with me and for always having my back. And to my LA food friends, Grace, Tien (and Idgie), Yeekai, Kimberly, Jeff! Thank you to Akaider for bringing the most amazing fruit tart ever, and to everyone that came out and helped to make it the best birthday ever.

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I want to thank whoever took some of these photos while I was off having a blast. Andreanna, N8, and whoever else. I loved checking my SD card and finding so many photos of me looking so happy. I don’t remember the last time I looked that happy in photographs.

One of my favorite quotes ever, courtesy of Anthony Bourdain, is Context and memory play powerful roles in all the truly great meals in one’s life. And, after this night, I also learned that…
Context and memory play powerful roles in all the truly great nights in one’s life…

Ricky (Rickys Fish Tacos), Yeekai (CogCoffee), Tyler Wells, and Mike Phillips.

I am not going to try to top this party next year. I’m throwing in the towel. As Mike D. said, “story’s over. said and done. seen the mountaintop, went there.”

So I’ll see you all at the Chuck E Cheese’s ball pit for my 29th birthday next year…


















































































































